Hardcore habits are as hard and painful as the experiences that shaped them.
Habits are developed as a means of survival and to cope with stressful situations that momentarily arise from human aspirations, struggles and challenges faced in fulfilment of needs, interests and policy positions at different levels of human functioning.
The way human beings adapt when faced with very challenging situations vary greatly with levels of existing stress already faced by the individual, means of adaptation strategies available, personality sensitivity, and perceived environment contraints and eventual impact, and what society percieves as good or bad habits.
The individual and societal construction of habits occurs from the onset of interaction between developing baby or organism and its immediate environment.
The quality of environment in defining the individual set of habit. However, many psychologists believe that habits are passed on from one generation to another and learned based on the quality of interaction the individual has with his or her environment.
Change is a process. Habits of the individual have undergone process of mental, physical, and social formations.
Some of the habits are detrimental to the individual as well as society. They are pushed down the throats of others as laws to normalize the otherwise abnormal situation.
Indeed, the be-like-me, regardless of the dangerous attributes associated to it, are influenced by most powerful person and group of people to change the status-quo and satisfy their strong egos, accumulated worries, fears, and suspiciousness, no matter how crazy and unreal they may be.
The parallel relationship between the individual and family or individual and society maybe intolerable and lead to extreme stress and depression.
Under extreme and sustained cases, physical illnesses and non-communicable diseases breakout en masse, mostly among adults above 40 years.
The more energetic individuals cope by means of creating terror in society to force it respond to their personal needs, or by using unorthodox ways to meet their goals.
It is society that meets the high costs of the intimate challenges of the struggling individual. Unfortunately, they tend to offer unrewarding and poor quality social support system, instead.
As such, they remain a burden to society, until immune systems are compromized and long-term illnesses ensue. This only deteriorates, unless one, two, three, and million others step in to save the situation with daring courage, which is rare.
Instead, the negative ‘forces’ overwhelm existing courage and capacity to save the situation.
Despite its existence, hardly can they amass support due to fear of victimization, being unfashionable, or acting odd in the normalized abnormal era.
At the end of the day, there is truth or light, so much that no one can dispute the need to change Incidentally, that is the world we live in.
It is built on the foundation of Illusions, much agitation, and strong attraction to false information as true, worthwhile, without a second look to verify or ask questions to obtain truth.
Lies taste best and pay most. So, any truth and light never taste any better or appeal to the majority, and easily forgotten.
Nevertheless, the truth and light too lasts forever until sought again, and many times, because of temporary rewards from falsehoods.
The world keeps taking shifts, from truth to falsehoods, back and forth, not even science is gaining any ground in sustaining truth.
The amount of time taken to develop a habit is same amount or more required to help reverse it.
Experiences have showed that change process begins to take effect after a period of three months, a period when individuals begin to realise the need for change, and another three more months of focused change process and change management.
The amount of time needed to counter undesirable habit is determined by the strength of impact and damage created by the initial change.
The safety concerns and physical damage require management before initiation of the change process programme.
This may take two years, depending on how soon the individual responds, or even go on for a decade, because the conditions that created by the initial change were very devastating or took same period of time to ‘grow’.
Such programmes must be able to meet the specific needs of individuals, including evacuation from physical danger, relocation, offering most urgent physical needs, and long-term financial support, being part of the same change or therapeutic program.
Change is widely considered natural. Missed change is a source of conflict within the being and social environment.
The critical step to consider in the change process is gaining insight about self, which helps to recollect, review, and sieve information about behaviours and their consequences.
This creates the need for change of identified habits, learn how they evolve, identify trigger factors associated to them, develop systematic plan disassociate from the trigger factors, find healthy alternatives to replace trigger factors, including sensual drinks, environments, and people.
It is also important to regularly say words that communicate masterly over the change course, find reinforcing groups of people and objects within one’s immediate environment to associate with, and support important elements of the change program.
Changing bad habits is a self-driven and reinforced course of action. This must be developed by the person seeking change with support of family and friends before the onset on the change program.
Individuals who are overwhelmed and subdued by habits can best change with deliberate and consistent programming of desired change at different levels of interaction and contexts that shaped old lifestyle.
If change is not programmed and managed according to the therapeutic design, society always has own way of forcing change out of the individual without empathy and compromise.
Support group needs to gather and unde8 predisposing factors causing the undesirable behaviours and unfold them systematically using an easy-follow and flexible work-plan by the supported person to address.
Society has norms, some of which are destructive, strongly imposed on individuals in ways that help form bad habits.
So, at this point the sick society cannot help the sick individual. That is why the individual in question must be relocated to begin change process in new and neutral setting.
Habits and change them are determined by consistent and quality interaction during in renurturing affected person, and offering positive reinforcements to support change at individual, family, and society levels, until desired outcomes begin to manifest.
For this to happen, deliberate change processes must be designed to respond to specific needs of re-growth, re-development long of old personality development up to levels of self-control, agility, and situation management.